wonderspy (wonderspy) wrote in for_bridesmaids,

I think I'm a Party Pooper

I'm a 19 year old college student who has been asked to be the maid of honor for a friend that I have known for over a decade.
I let her know right away that I was just coming out of my first year of college and my financial resources were drained. I thought she would be really understanding about it at first. We were going over dresses and most of the ones she picked out were rather cheap (under $150, still breaking my budget but it could be so much worse).
Um, that's sort of where the worrying about money ended for her. She proceeds to tell me about the rehersal dinner, the wedding reception, and the party out of town for all the people that can't come to the regular wedding. Apparently, that's not enough. She throws it to me that she wants a bachelorette party. Not a bridal shower mind you. A stripper-drinking-barhopping bachelorette party.
I understand why she wants this. She's been living at home with her fiance for the last year and now she's going to get married to him. She's totally skipped the single lifestyle and going out and just having fun with people other than him.
I'm just not comfortable doing a party like this, especially with her. Not to mention that I don't have the money to do it, and the two bridesmaids would expect me to fork over the money before them. We can't even legally drink, why go to bars and clubs? She's not the dancing type.
I don't know how to approach this. Should I just tell her no or let it roll off my back? She doesn't want a nice bridal shower because she dissed that idea with her mom.
Thanks to all.
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